The Lost Summer

The Double Parent:

Single parents and the long, long summer vacation from school…

Originally posted on Longreads Blog:

Elissa Strauss | Longreads | August 2015 | 15 minutes (3,841 words)

Below is the story of a single mother and her daughter. Names and certain identifying details have been changed to protect their identities.

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By the time Olympia picked up her 6-year-old daughter Raina from the babysitter she was tired. She works a 10-hour day satisfying the various needs of two young siblings in Brooklyn’s affluent neighborhood of Cobble Hill, shepherding them to and from various classes, camps and playdates, making sure they get food when hungry, rest when tired and are properly stimulated when bored.

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Republicans back a bill that could make it legal to fire single women because they’re pregnant

The Double Parent:

Single mothers – getting pregnant all by themselves for centuries.

Originally posted on Fusion:

A number of Republicans in the House and Senate have backed a measure that would shield employers from legal action if they act—say, fire someone—in accordance with their belief that “marriage is or should be recognized as the union of one man and one woman.”

But opponents of the measure say that, in addition to unraveling anti-discrimination protections for federal contractors enacted by President Obama, the bill is broad enough that it could also sanction discrimination against pregnant single women and other people whose choices might upset their boss’ religious sensibilities.

From the text of the First Amendment Defense Act:

Notwithstanding any other provision of law, the Federal Government shall not take any discriminatory action against a person, wholly or partially on the basis that such person believes or acts in accordance with a religious belief or moral conviction that marriage is or should be recognized as the union of one…

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Proud to be a double parent…

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I am single. I am a parent. I have sole custody of my children. I am not a single-parent. I do the parenting work of two people, therefore I am a double parent.

As double parents, we are LITERALLY doing the parenting work of two people. We are 100% responsible for the sum total of our children’s parenting – a task that is normally shared (hopefully, equally) by two people. That’s quite the responsibility.

If we were two do twice the work asked of us by our boss, we would be applauded, promoted and given raises – or at least, we would deserve that treatment.As a double parent, I am proud to do double the work. It’s certainly harder to row the parent boat alone as opposed to a rowing in a pair. It actually seems like you are hopping while everyone else is running – the work is harder and the rests are fewer – but believe me, the rewards are great.


No matter how difficult your journey is I urge you to keep going.

Remember, no parent is perfect and everyone makes mistakes.

Don’t give up. You are enough, and you are good enough! Hold your  head up high and do not let anyone or any circumstance steal your joy. Do not let anyone tell you that your family is broken. You are not broken. 

I am proud to  be a double parent and it is my hope that you, too, will be proud of your double parenting.

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