Category Archives: TDP Legal

The story of our lives….

The story of our lives....

“You teach people how to treat you by what you allow, what you stop, and what you reinforce.” — Tony Gaskins.

After a less than satisfactory meeting with the least helpful (or possibly the most realistic) lawyer at the Family Law Information Centre yesterday, I was feeling more than a little down and more than a little hopeless. My planned revolution (of my life) for 2013 looked like it was over and defeat was imminent. I felt crushed. My white flag was at the ready.

But, (surely by the grace of God) as I scrolled through my WordPress Reader this morning, I came across this inspirational photo posted by http://toddlohenry.com/ and my own words jumped at me. The reason I need my revolution in 2013 is so that I can teach other people (namely my ex and his family) that they cannot continue to treat me in the way they have done so in the past.

I knew that by throwing in the proverbial towel, I would lose all that I had fought for in 2012 by standing up to the bullies in my life. More important than any gains made (which other than more self-respect for myself, were few and far between), I would lose the ability to fight again. I would lose my dignity because I would be giving back to my ex the right to walk all over me. My children would instantly see their father again, but I would remain subject to him. I would literally be sacrificing myself. My gut was telling me not to give up the fight, but my head was telling me that I would be defeated in court. I want my children to see their father and have a relationship with him, but not at my expense, and without risk to their personal safety. (To read about my planned revolution, please click here.

This picture and quote reminded me that I have to keep fighting. It is exactly what I need for today. If I don’t stop letting others treat me badly, I allow them to treat me badly. By letting them get what they want though their bad treatment of me, I reinforce the very treatment I want to stop.

Keep fighting today, people. Don’t give up. Don’t worry about tomorrow’s fight. Just get through today and you will be glad that you did.

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Rogers outage follow-up.

Rogers outage follow-up.

After the Ontario-wide Rogers outage last week, I wrote the following post, then shared it both on facebook and Twitter. https://thedoubleparent.wordpress.com/2013/01/09/how-to-complain-about-rogers-or-your-telecommunications-company/

I suggested that if paying customers weren’t happy with their telecommunications company, Rogers or otherwise, they complain to the Commissioner for Complaints for Telecommunications Services. (CCTS)

Well, it looks like Rogers read my blog post. Not only did @RogersElise commented above from her (Rogers) Twitter account, but @RogersHelp direct messaged me on Twitter and offered a credit of $5.00 to my account. I accepted their offer. When I checked my account online, I had a credit balance of $5.65 – presumably the credit included tax.

While five bucks may not seem like a lot of money, what matters most here is that Rogers realised that their paying customers WILL publicly complain and that as paying customers we expect respect and good service. You won”t get good service if you let companies treat you like dirt. As far as I have been able to ascertain, the credit as an apology, is not being given to everyone who suffered the major service disruption. It should. If you want yours, complain.

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SCHOOLS OPEN!! Latest info on the EFTO Teachers’ strike – Jan 11, 2013

PDSB's facebook pageI kept my children home from school today (11/01/13) – despite a robocall from my daughter’s middle school at 6:23am informing me that her school was open and busses were running.  A quick check of my facebook newsfeed confirmed my suspicion that there would be a lot of frustrated parents and children in Ontario today.

The headline in The Toronto Sun today reads “Utter chaos brought to you by the ETFO” and I have to admit, they nailed it. The government obtained a “cease and desist” order from the Ontario Labour Relations Board who had ruled, overnight, that any move to protest during normal school hours Friday would be considered an “unlawful strike.” Following the 4 a.m. decision, Elementary Teachers’ Federation of Ontario President Sam Hammond grudgingly said teachers should show up for work. Teachers who didn’t comply with the Friday ruling could have each faced a $2,000 fine while the union itself could face a fine of up to $25,000.

Confusion Reigns at PDSB:
One look at the Peel District School Board’s facebook page reveals just how frustrated and confused parents are.  The page states that, “Attendance will be taken at school today. Students who are not at school because parents believed schools were closed due to labour action will not have today recorded as an absence on their report card. Students who are ill, or are away for another reason, will be marked absent.” And this just added to the frustration.  And if there wasn’t enough confusion already, PDSB threw this one into the mix as well: Due to weather conditions, Peel board buses in Caledon are cancelled, but schools are open. Buses in Caledon will remain cancelled all day. All activities that require transportation are also cancelled. Permits, night school classes, daycare and other activities in schools will operate as usual.”

Here is a complete list of schools that are open today: http://www.ctvnews.ca/canada/open-or-closed-complete-list-of-ontario-school-boards-1.1109934

Mixed Emotions:                                                                                                                             Personally, I have mixed emotions about the strike. As one parent (Migdalah Hannon) on facebook said today, “Before you blame teachers for this difficult situation, know the facts and understand that if they don’t stand up for their rights today, you may not be able to stand up for yours tomorrow. The government is your representative. Do you want hard-working, valuable citizens stripped of their labour rights? Do you want a government that goes back on its word whenever it feels like it?

What Would Walmart Workers DO???                                                                                              On the other hand, I understand that there people in the private sector who would give their right arms to have the union protected working conditions and contracts that teachers do. When anything like this comes up, I always think of the humble Walmart checkout operator, and I wonder  WWWWD – What Would Walmart Workers DO??? I also know that there are many trained teachers out of work and many unemployed people desperate for work, and then there are those who are unable to work for many personal or medical reasons. It’s not a cliche, these ARE tough times.

The bottom Line:                                                                                                                                   The union is fighting for the teachers – end of story. If the EFTO really cared about the rest of the working population, they would be protesting on weekends and really stirring up some civil unrest.

That being said, this strike affects us all – not just the parents, the teachers, the children, the unions, the government. Many business went about planning emergency day camps and child-mind today, and at the last minute, lost that extra revenue because schools are open. (But it’s still not business as usual.)

Click here to read the release from the Labour Board.

http://www.peelschools.org/aboutus/labour/Documents/OLRB%20Decision%20-%20Jan%2011.pdf

How has this labour dispute affected you?

Do you agree with the EFTO?

Do you think it’s fair that the government should impose its will on people in this way???

What I want to know is: Where is the union representing the children??? And why is it always the vulnerable who are most affected when grown-ups can’t agree?

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