How I became a single-dad by Jason Evans

TDP Jason Evans

Jason and his kids.

From a young age, I’ve been around children a lot. When my parents split up, I went to my mother’s work with her because she didn’t have a baby-sitter. My mom is a Labor and Delivery nurse, and I would hang-out with the nurses in the nursery. Even after I joined the navy, I would still occasionally watch my buddy’s son for him. I soon learned that “for a man” I was very good with children.

When I got out of the navy, I met a woman in San Diego – I was stationed there and she had grown up there. She said that she was moving to New York to meet her real father. Because I am from New York, I told her that if things didn’t work out for me in California I would come to New York to see her. About a month later, she called me and said that she could get a place if I was going to move out there with her and help pay for it. I said yes and we moved to New York. We lived together as friends for a little while and then I got her pregnant. I told my boss at the time that I didn’t love her and I wasn’t ready for this. I chose to stay (which I felt was my only choice) and take care of my daughter. 13 months later, she was pregnant again. When my son was born I named him Jason Jr. (JJ).

When we were together, we were always the ones that our friends came to when they needed help with their kids. I always loved to have a lot of kids around. But I soon realised that I was living with someone I didn’t love. I started to drink. One day, while my family were up north at my mother’s having a baby shower (my son’s) I got arrested for DWI – and another a week later. After that, I quit drinking for a little over a year. Then I started drinking just a little bit now and then. She left for about 8 months after a couple arguments about money and some other things and she left me with the kids. I was quick to find a girlfriend, but one day, in an argument, she hit me and so I asked her to leave. I then called the children’s mother and begged her to come back. A couple of months after that, the work ran out where we were living. I got an offer to work for someone that lived up north, close to where my mother lived up north. So we moved into my mother’s house, and lived there for about a year until we saved enough and found a place of our own. Still not being in love with her, I started to drink heavily and do bad things again. I got another DWI and crashed my car. I should have died but I didn’t have so much as a scratch. This woke me up and made me see what I needed to do. I left. I moved back into my mother’s and went to rehab. When I got out of rehab and started working again, I found a place.

One day, my ex asked me if she could start dating. I said, “I don’t care, but if you’re so worried about your social life, then give me the kids.” She just said ok. So I took the kids and I love having them around so much. I have been granted joint custody with placement and say-so of visitation. I firmly believe everything happens for a reason. I have done more things with my kids in the last 8 months than I have ever done. They are my blessing. I have been clean and sober for just over 9 months now and I am doing great. I take care of my kids all by myself and wouldn’t have it any other way. I inspire to be someone that my children will be proud of throughout  life. There is no bad blood between their mother and me. I never talk badly about her. Everyone has their own problems and I like my life the way it now is. I am now happy to do it by myself, but when the kids are older, I hope I find someone to spend my life with. Thank you for listening

About Jason: Jason Evans is a 34 yr old single father of two. His daughter, Brianna, is 10 and his son, Jason Jr., is 9. He’s been in construction for over 15 years, was in the Navy for 4 years, and was first vice commander of Seneca County New York American legion. He currently resides in upstate New York and admins on facebook at Super Crazy Super Parents.

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One thought on “How I became a single-dad by Jason Evans

  1. r4n3sh says:

    You are admirable Jason. Many wouldn’t do what you do for your kids and the dad you are to them. Good job. Children indeed are a great blessing. And you seem to blessed with a heart for them. I wish you all the best and much happiness.


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